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Thought for the Day |
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The hard thing about personal growth is that you cannot have it all.
You can’t have your self-deprecating habits and amazing self-esteem. You can’t have your vicious, angry tongue and harmonious relationships. The good news is that once you take responsibility for your less-than-appealing traits, things become much easier.
There are a lot of good reasons for not taking responsibility for your life. It is much easier to blame “them.” Who is “them?” Those other people! Those people who are mean, limiting, pushy, overbearing (or drive and talk on their cell phone). If you blame them, you don’t have to admit that you are at least 50 percent responsible for everything going on in your life.
If you really want to make things better in your life, take 100 percent responsibility for everything going on in your life.
Everything.
Even things that seem to have no connection to you, like the washing machine repairman showing up late. If you say, I attracted this into my life so I accept responsibility, you will remove yourself from the world of victimization and blame.
Then you are truly empowered to improve your circumstances.
Let’s review: thoughts lead to behaviors that create results. The results you are seeing in your life stemmed somewhere along the way from your own thoughts. Whether or not you understand how or why, what has been created in your life is your own doing.
What has been created in your life is your own doing.
A critical step in moving to higher levels of thinking is taking responsibility for absolutely everything your life. Everything in your life. It is harder than blaming someone else. But, it really is not that hard. And it is your ticket to moving on to something better.
(No one ever said this personal growth stuff would be easy!)
Your self-reflection time is a good opportunity, probably your only regular chance, to look at how you are reacting to things and take responsibility for what is happening in your life.
If you are thinking in terms of survival, victimization, or blame, then you are going to be living in a world where you feel a victim to all of your circumstances. So spend some time reflecting on this: what do you gain out of living in a survival-oriented world and why don’t you want to leave it?
We all have an internal resistance to change. When you look at taking responsibility for the things you want to change in your life, you will also notice your resistance. For example, sometimes when I imagine bringing in a large and successful client, I get nervous. What if I get too busy and don’t have time for my family? What if I get in over my head and can’t complete the project? Even as I look to make positive changes, part of me can resist and even undermine those changes.
How do you take responsibility? A good baby step is to stop, observe what is going on and say, “Somehow or another, I created this.” That changes everything!
Take responsibility for what is going on your life. Recognize your own resistance to positive change. Then, along with all the silly things you’ve said today, let it go. Now you can start to figure out what you really want.
And make it happen. |
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When you take responsibility, you are empowered to improve your circumstances. |
Thursday |
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It’s Mine and I Don’t Want It |
